Ben Affleck On His Perfect Match, Fatherhood And More

Ben Affleck, the 35 year-old father to adorable Violet, recently opened up on acting (and Viagra) tips from Bruce Willis and giving up his wild lifestyle to find his perfect match.

On being famous: “It’s a bit weird. People think you have this exciting and romantic life, because you project this exciting, romantic life on screen. But in reality you’re just doing the same thing as everyone else – you know, sitting around watching TV with your gut hanging out, playing with your kid, or even sitting on the toilet. You know what’s weird? Even I’m not that interested in my personal life any more.”

On how he would describe himself: “My mother always accused me of being in love with the sound of my own voice. When we went on road trips, she’d be like, ‘Stop singing. Be quiet, you’re talking just to hear yourself speak.’ It was probably true. I like to ramble on, which is probably why I’m well suited to interviews. You know, there’s no other forum where you’re literally supposed to sit down and just talk for hours about yourself. I love it.”

On the best advice he received from a celebrity:“I once worked with Bruce Willis (in Armageddon) and he had some pearls of wisdom. I talked to him about acting, and you know, he taught me about the benefits of Viagra, so it all worked out. Ha ha! He’s been around for a long time, and he’s someone I’ve looked up to from his Die Hard and Moonlighting days. He could’ve really made it difficult for me on set, but instead he was very welcoming. He also told me a lot of things about this business, which have proved very helpful. Many of which are neither repeatable, nor printable.”

On any regrets: “No serious regrets. Sure, I could have made better movie or relationship choices. I wish I’d changed my name early on. I used to be very critical of people who changed their name, like they were going all Hollywood, but now I understand it. It protects those around you. But I’ve been very fortunate, I have a cool family.”

On what scares him: “I have so many fears it would be hard to list them all. Of course, I fear for the safety of my family. I used to be scared of flying. One of the good things to come out of making Pearl Harbour was I took flying lessons and that helped me over the fear. It’s more about feeling in control for me.”

On coming close to death: “I was in a car accident once. It happened while I was driving on a motorway and I hit a patch of ice. I was going about 70-80mph, way too fast, and I just started spinning in the car. I remember going backwards, and watching all the cars go by. I had this sense of feeling removed and thinking, ‘Wow, I’m probably going to die.’ Then boom! I smashed into a cement fence. I got lucky, I could have been killed if I’d hit another car, but I wasn’t even hurt.”

On his dream woman: “That’s easy, I married her. Jennifer (Garner) is so up there, you keep thinking there has to be a dark side. She’s incredibly patient and an amazing mother. One of the great things about Jennifer is she has no idea how beautiful she is. There are a lot of women, particularly in this business, who use their physical attributes and sexuality to get them somewhere. That isn’t her style at all. But she’s drop-dead gorgeous. She’s more than the girl next door, because she’s va-va voom, but in the same vein she’s not threatening. Jennifer is someone I can trust and get along with.”

On being afraid of marrying the wrong woman after calling off his engagement to J Lo: “I really think you know ahead of time when you make mistakes in relationships, but you tell yourself, ‘No, I’ll be OK.’ It’s because you don’t want to face it. You’re only ready to admit it when the relationship becomes untenable and you have to get out of it. Those reasons you say at the end, you knew them at the beginning, but you just didn’t admit them to yourself. Well, at least in my experiences. With Jen, I just knew.”

On how fatherhood has changed him: “For the better. I love being a father, it’s wonderful. It’s changed my life. All the clichés are true. My daughter Violet, who’s two, is the most important person in my life. And Jen’s great. I’m a lucky guy. I know my wife doesn’t have much faith in me preparing my daughter’s food properly when she’s working, but I always surprise her by getting the job done.”

On his abilities as a ‘good father’: “I hope so. I think we all like to see ourselves as good dads, but there’s also that fear, ‘Oh, I don’t want to be like my father,’ or, ‘I hope my kid doesn’t turn out like me.’ You know, I have those feelings too. So the key is optimism.”

On how his stay in rehab in 2001 changed his life: “Simple as this, I quit drinking. It’s really not that big a deal. It has no real bearing on anything else in my life. Your lifestyle changes at a certain age. Like me, a lot of my friends are married with kids. When you are in your 20s and you’re not married with kids, you’re having fun. But when you’re in your 30s and you’re not married and don’t have kids, you begin to develop a Peter Pan complex. As you grow older, you have more responsibilities and you have to step up to them. I’m pretty happy. I don’t want to jump off the roof or jump for joy depending on my movie reviews, or whether it makes money. I think the larger, more meaningful things are family and the people you love.”

On his directorial debut in Gone Baby Gone. Did he ever think of starring in the movie?: “Initially, I thought maybe I’ll just adapt the novel into a screenplay with my writing partner, Aaron (Stockard), then we’ll get a director and I’ll act in it. Then I thought, ‘Maybe I should direct it too.’ But then I thought, ‘I can’t direct and act in it.’ I was terrified. Directing and acting is a completely daunting idea. I don’t know how in the world Clint Eastwood managed to do Unforgiven or Kevin Costner Dances With Wolves. It just seems incredibly difficult.”

On casting his brother Casey in the film – any sibling rivalry?: “Sure, there were times we disagreed. He’s a very smart guy and his focus is always on making the scene better. But at the end of the day, I’m the director and it’s my movie, and he does what I tell him.”

On his abilities in the kitchen: “I’m terrible in the kitchen. I was mostly raised by my mother and she could cook, so I never perfected that skill. If I had to count on my own cooking to survive, I’d probably be thinner.”

Source: Sunday Mirror

Photo: Flynet, Feb. 11

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  1. LISA SMITH

    WHEN WAS THIS ARTICLE WRITTEN IT SOUND LIKE THE ARTICLE FROM DETAILS MAGAZINE 2 YEARS AGO.. THE WRITER WENT ON TO SAY OTHER “STUFF” ABOUT BEN.. WHEN NONE OF IT IS TRUE..

    HIS MOTHER IS A SCHOOL TEACHER IN BOSTON..AND TALKING ABOUT BRUCE WILLIS WAS 1997..SO WHEN IS THERE GOING TO BE AN ARTICLE FROM THIS YEAR.???

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  2. Jenny

    Check out the link from the Sunday Mirror. It was just posted…..further, he was promoting his film “Gone Baby Gone” which is just being released.

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  3. Chrystie Delancey

    I have doubts about the article too. Armageddon was released in 1998 so it was probably made in 1996 or 1997. Viagra was not available for sale in the US until late 1998. I doubt he told him about Viagra back then. I doubt Bruce had access to it back then either.

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  4. shelley

    It’s a collage of old interviews.Couldn’t find all the quotes. from Oct 99
    http://archive.salon.com/people/col/reit/1999/10/27/np1027/index.html and feb.2003 http://www.filmmonthly.com/Profiles/Articles/DDBAffleck/DDBAffleck.html.I doubt he wouid be that open now that he’s very private about his personal life and much less to a tabloid newspaper

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