A happy marriage, a close-knit family, a successful career: Kyra Sedgwick seems to have it all. The star of The Closer, who celebrates her 44th birthday today, is featured on the cover of the current issue of Ladies’ Home Journal. In a candid interview, Kyra opens about her career, her husband, and her new life as a long distance mom.
With their 21st wedding anniversary just around the corner, Kyra and Kevin Bacon have one of Hollywood’s longest and seemingly happiest marriages. Earlier this year the actor revealed their secret to success, saying, “You’ve got to keep the fights clean and the sex dirty.” Kyra says she knew immediately that he was “the one.”
“When I met Kevin I thought, This feels like home,” she says. “I don’t know how at 22 I went, ‘Yeah, that’s the guy,’ and was actually right about it. Usually you pick someone who has all the worst qualities of your father or something. Someone was watching over me when I picked Kevin, because I couldn’t have been that smart.”
The couple married within months and soon welcomed children – son Travis is now 20 and daughter Sosie is 17. Kyra reveals their early parenting pact: One of them would always stay home with the kids.
“I remember the first time I went away after having my children,” the hands-on mom recalls. “It was to the Sundance writers and directors lab in Utah. The first few days I was incapable of even taking three steps in front of me. I had forgotten what it felt like to be by myself.”
Fast forward 20 years and Kyra still finds herself trying to balance career and family. For the past several years she’s been spending half the year in in New York where The Closer is filmed while Kevin and the kids stay on the West coast. Though she flies home twice a month and keeps in daily contact, she says she is often “a teary mess.”
“The homesickness – missing the kids, missing those life moments – that gets harder and harder.”
Kyra admits to moments of doubt, but she says that overall she has no regrets.
“There are moments when I ask the universe, ‘Is this the right thing to be doing right now?’ The older you get the more you realize that the time you have with your children is short. But I trust that I wouldn’t be here if I wasn’t supposed to be. I don’t have any regrets.”