Sarah Jessica Parker: “We Tried & Tried & Tried To Get Pregnant”

Sarah Jessica Parker: "We Tried & Tried & Tried To Get Pregnant"

Carrie Bradshaw and the girls are back! Sarah Jessica Parker graces the May 2010 cover of Vogue and opens up about fashion, filming SATC2 in Morocco, her struggles to conceive, and the joys of being mom to three young children.

On trying to conceive naturally: “[We] tried and tried and tried and tried and tried to get pregnant, but it just was not to be, the conventional way—I would give birth as often as I could, if I could. I cherished all the milestones, the good and the bad.”

On the day their surrogate mother, from Parker’s home state of Ohio, went into labor unexpectedly: Sarah’s hubby Matthew Broderick wasn’t home, so it was just she and her son running around the house throwing things into a suitcase. “And I came back into the room and saw James Wilkie combing his hair down in a certain way and standing in front of the mirror. And he doesn’t know that I heard him say, ‘I have to be handsome when I meet my sisters.’ It killed me.”

On meeting the twins for the first time: “Meeting your children rather than giving birth to them, it’s as if, um, it’s—suspended animation. The gestational experience is gone. It’s as if everything else disappears for a moment, and the world goes silent and—I can’t explain it except to say that nothing else existed. I don’t remember anything but the blanket on the bed that they were lying on and my husband’s face and their faces and my son’s. It’s literally as if sound is sucked from the room. Time stands still. It’s so different, and equally extraordinary. I am very poor at describing it. But it’s amazing.”

On the months leading up to the birth: “I think the biggest thing is you can’t celebrate something that is potentially filled with joy, nor can you share fears and worries about every checkup, you know—the sixteen-week checkup, the amnio, the this, the that. The bone scan, the nuchal test. And the waiting is different, the whole nine months. We couldn’t talk about the fact that we were having children to anybody for soooo long. All the stuff that matters is secretive and worrisome. You can’t talk about how you feel about the woman who’s carrying your children; you can only talk about it to your husband.” She laughs. “And he just doesn’t want to talk about it as much as you do.”

On wanting siblings for James: “I didn’t want him to have to shoulder the burden of us—later in life—by himself.”

On being away from the twins while filming SATC2: “I haven’t seen my daughters for almost two months, with the exception of Skype, and I have to tell you, I never felt like this.” [James] Stayed here [London] ; he loved it.” He also visited Morocco briefly, flying home without her (and filling in his own customs card on landing). But the twins were too young to get their H1N1 shots.

On if doing theater is easier for moms than doing movies: “[It's harder] because I really like putting the kids to bed. And when I’m doing a movie, for the first few days of the week I can almost always get home in time to put James Wilkie and my daughters to sleep. If I’m doing a play, I miss all of that.”

On the girls’ nicknames: Tabitha Hodge (“or Babe”) and Marion Loretta Elwell (“or Kitty”). “Aren’t those great names? Babe Broderick! Kitty Broderick! It’s like it’s 1940. I wish it were 1940.”

On loving these early years with her kids: “[There'll come a time when] my son doesn’t like us the way he really loves us now. He certainly won’t want to have us there and pushing his hair back and tucking him in and putting lotion on his body and the routine that we love. My daughters have a bottle at 6:30 to 7:00 and then they get like a dream feed at 9:30 to 10:00, and I love it.”

On loving motherhood: “I make my children’s food myself. We put together their high chairs ourselves; we do a lot ourselves! We do our own grocery shopping, we go to the market ourselves, you know? I do my laundry.”

On if there will be a SATC3: “We’re married now. If we make another one where we’re grandparents, we’d still have a good time.”

On her introduction to New York and Halston: “I came to New York originally in 1976, and then I got this part in Annie around the corner from Studio 54. I was a little girl, and for some reason they always invited the cast of Annie to Studio 54, so there I was at thirteen and fourteen, and the doorman would usher us in, literally underneath his arms. And it was 1977 in New York City, and you couldn’t be alive and not know the name Halston.”

On her new position with Halston: “There was every reason to say no, and there were very compelling reasons to say yes…. It’s an exciting time at that company. It has had some false starts that are well documented and it is relaunching itself. It has a wonderful legacy, and I couldn’t say no.”

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  1. CelineDionFan21

    I aboslutely LOVE reading interviews when Sarah talks about her children. It’s clear she just adores them and how sweet is James saying he had to look handsome to meet his sisters. That melted my heart. He is an amazing big brother. Now I know people are probably going to throw an all outfit and go nuts over her saying James went on a flight alone but first off children are supervised on flights if they are alone, second someone stays with the child at the airport till the appropriate adult is there to get them. Also with her saying she had to leave the girls, please remember the twins were not in the picture when she signed on to do SATC 2, I also agree with her. I wouldnt’ want to take two small babies on a flight in a cabin full of germs for hours and hours. They were to young to get the H1N1 shot, so she made the right choice. She left them at home with their father Matthew and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

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    • nanpan

      I always agree with you, CelineDionFan21, and this is no exception :-) Well said!

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      • CelineDionFan21

        Well atleast someone does, thank you nanpan. Sarah didn’t really have a choice in the matter, she couldn’t drop out of the movie once she signed on. The twins from what I understand weren’t in the picture when she signed her contract for SATC 2 it was done atleast a half a year or year before they decided to have another child. They weren’t expecting a pregnancy so soon after she started filming on SATC 2. It would have cost her to much money and contracts are very hard to break and she would likely be sued by the company that produced SATC 2.

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  2. Anonymous

    I think what her son said is so incredibly sweet. I could never, ever, for any reason, leave my baby for 2 months. I’m sure she has the means to have done whatever it takes to get them there. I really don’t understand her choice.

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    • CelineDionFan21

      Didn’t you rea what she said? She couldn’t take them but they couldn’t get the H1N1 shot yet and she didn’t want them getting sick. For their health she choice to leave them with Matthew at home where they were safe.

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  3. justme

    Looks like someone had A LOT of fun with Photoshop on the cover..

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  4. Theresa

    I love her discription of when she first met her girls…it was so similar to when I met my daughter…”as if sound is sucked from the room” I felt the exact same way…as if time stood still for that moment…forever in my heart and memory…

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  5. MJ

    I love SJP! She has a good head on her shoulders and I just adore her in SATC. I agree, James’ comment was so sweet! My heart really breaks for her in her struggle to get pregnant. It makes me feel a little guilty that it’s so easy for me and not others who definitely would make amazing parents.

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  6. Amolia Mae

    SJP = Fabulous. I will never forget the day we met our daughter, 6 years ago. She was 9 weeks old then and when I held her, she looked right up at me and let beamed out the sweetest smile. Butter melted, the world stopped and our bond was instant. I was so pleased to hear when the girls came into the Broderick family. And as for 1940 – AmoliaMae loves that era as well. Have no fear – the days gone by are coming back!

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  7. Anonymous

    Do you think it was meant to say 2 weeks and not 2 months? I honestly can’t imagine her being away from them that long.

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  8. Anonymous

    Oh no! did she just reveal the ending to SATC2?

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  9. Sophia

    I really can’t believe she didn’t see the twins for two months! I’m not having a go at her for her choice, but I just could never, ever do that, and I don’t even have kids yet! Apart from that, she seems like a really wonderful mother, who has a lot of love and wisdom to offer her children. And I LOVE the girls’ nicknames :) Babe and Kitty=too cute.

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    • CelineDionFan21

      I think she meant more like two months total not all at once. I’m sure she flew back to NY during breaks in filming to see the girls and James. I highly highly doubt she spent two months straight without seeing them EVER that whole time. Magazine also chose to word things differently and leave out parts of quotes so we can’t really know if that is the whole quote or if its been edited or what.

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  10. Alice

    Anonymous, no she didn’t reveal the ending, they were married in SATC 1 ;)

    I find it sad that she didn’t see her daughters in 2 months, especially since my mom told me she left me a week with my grandma when I was 2 and after only a week I didn’t recognise her that well. But I do agree she had no choice, being contracted before she had them – and a movie so big as SATC2 doesn’t get rescheduled! She made the right choice in leaving the girls home, no amount of money could help if they were too young for the vaccine.

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  13. Anonymous

    I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO BE A SURROGRATE MOTHER IM HAVE 8 CHILDREN OF MY OWN AND WHAT JOY AND TEARS THEY BRING IM 41YRS YOUNG AND VERY FERTILE

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