For women suffering from infertility, Mother’s Day can be a challenging and heartbreaking day to face. In the past, this was no different for My Big Fat Greek Wedding star Nia Vardalos who long suffered from infertility, and after years of trying to become pregnant, adopted a child a year ago. The actress, who is married to Cougar Town‘s Ian Gomez, took to Anderson Cooper’s 360 blog to share her feelings on Mother’s Day, as a mother, a woman who struggled with infertility, and as the spokesperson for National Adoption Day.
Last year the actress opened up to Parade, saying that six years ago she had to face “the end of a long battle with infertility.” She is now sharing stories of the painful years when those surrounding her were having children, admitting that when pressed about having a child, she would reveal “we’re trying,” only to receive advice from unknowing friends and acquaintances.
Vardalos said, “A lot of ‘You Should’ advice came my way. From the ‘latest technique in Europe,’ to ‘just adopt from China’ – everyone weighed in. I understood it all came from them wanting to help. It was meant with goodwill. But it was a painful, overwhelming subject for me. I just wanted to throw dip in the air and run.”
A year ago the couple were matched with their “perfect daughter” via adoption. Of the new addition the actress shared, “There is no limit to the amount of attention, kindness and warmth our families and friends – the “aunties” and “uncles” – shower on our daughter. Over a year later, she is thriving in an environment of love and care.”
Lastly, Vardalos, who admits she is now a “giddy idiot” on Mother’s Day asks, “Please, on Mother’s Day, have some compassion. If you see someone without kids, do not ask them why they don’t have children, why they don’t just adopt, or if they are pregnant. Please be kind. Be quiet and pass the dip.”