Gavin Rossdale says he feels more like a friend than a father to his 21-year-old daughter Daisy Lowe. The musician found out Daisy was his child after taking a paternity test in 2004. Ironically he was her godfather while she was growing up and regularly spoke with her mother Pearl Lowe, whom he had a brief relationship with.
In an interview with Details magazine he explains the difference in parenting Kingston, 4, and Zuma, 2, his two kids with wife Gwen Stefani.
With the boys it’s traditional. I’m all they know and I’m with them all the time. With Daisy, I don’t know her in that context. The way I nurture those boys, I never got a chance with Daisy. I love my connection with her, but I don’t have any say in who she is. With the boys it’s my job to correct them and shape them. With Daisy, I just have to be respectful. I suppose it’s more like a friendship.”
When asked who does diaper duty at home, he says “Whoever’s nearest, really.”
He adds, “We have good people around us. If there’s no one there, I can do it, but otherwise I sort of slide away—I get very interested in my BlackBerry at that point. A friend once told me, ‘By the way, they never thank you for changing their diapers when they grow up, so don’t sweat it.’ I thought it was good advice.”
As for explaining the paparazzi to Kingston he says, “We haven’t found the words to explain it. I’ll want to take my kid to the beach, and there’s six grown men chasing us. He’s running around in his underwear as every child should, and I have to go up to them and say, “Can you not photograph my son running around in his underwear?
“The pictures show up anyway. He went through a really angry stage. He’d scream at them, “Get away! Don’t take a picture of my mom!” They’d say, “Wow, Kingston’s really moody.” You’re a (expletive) grown man running after a 4-year-old! What do you want him to do?”
One surprising admission is when Rossdale speaks about his romantic relationship with pop star Marilyn in the 1980’s. At the time he wanted to avoid the “glare” of the media.
He said, “I think at the outset there was a sort of fear – that was right at the beginning of Bush, and I didn’t want it to be part of it. It felt like a cheap shot, so I was like, ‘I’m not getting involved.’
“I’ve never wanted to appear closed about it. It’s not something I’ve talked about really because it’s always been in the glare of a tabloid world. It’s just one of those things – move on.”