Rebecca Romijn and Jerry O’Connell talk twins in the new issue of Scholastic’s Parent & Child magazine. The pair, whose daughters Dolly and Charlie turn 2 this month, share a bit about their girls’ unique personalities, and dish on the ups and downs of life with twins.
On how the girls are different from one another: Rebecca: “Because they’re fraternal twins, they’re as similar as any other two siblings might be. They’re actually very different — one is a little wilder and more of a daredevil, and the other is more careful. Charlie will wake up at 5 a.m., Dolly at 7. But as they get older I do notice they’re taking on each other’s characteristics. Sort of mimicking each other.”
Jerry: “Charlie is bigger. But I have to be careful saying that. I don’t want that to be an issue for either of my girls. I came from a household where no one stressed anything about size. My dad had a saying — ‘Height is measured from the neck up.’ But a lot of parents see Charlie and ask what percentile she’s in. That’s always the big question.”
On having twins: Rebecca: “I think it turns you into a little bit more of a relaxed parent. You only have two arms — sometimes you have to let one cry it out because the other needs your undivided attention. Having said that, Jerry and I do each other a favor by taking one alone from time to time. That’s important because twins are individuals, and they want to be recognized as such. It’s funny how after a few hours with just one we say, ‘Having one kid is easy!'”
On Jerry’s parenting style: Rebecca: “Fantastic. Thank God I married such a hilarious man. We try to keep it as light as we can.”
On Rebecca’s parenting style: Jerry: “She’s the best. Even when we have disagreements about the kids, I realize later that she was correct. I’m not saying that in a robotic, obedient husband kind of way. She’s a great mom, especially with girls. Maybe if we had had boys it’d be different, but we have girls.”
On their hopes for their girls: Rebecca: “When it comes to girls, you have to raise them without any belief in limitations. You have to instill in them from the beginning that they can do whatever it is they want to do. Right now they’re so full of life, so happy and high-spirited. I dream that nothing ever breaks that spirit.”
Jerry: “Actually, I want them to shatter the glass ceiling. I’m hoping they grow up and don’t even have to think about being held back. I like to think we live in a modern society and it won’t be an issue. Luckily, it’s 2010, and we’re not living in an episode of Mad Men.”