Reese Witherspoon: I Don't "Have It All"
| Apr 5, 2011 by CAROLYN ROBERTSON |

Newlywed Reese Witherspoon strikes a fierce pose on the cover of the May issue of the UK's Elle. The Water for Elephants star talks to the magazine about movie-making, motherhood, and the challenge of juggling both.
One of the industry's top-grossing actresses, Reese also seems to have found happiness on the home front with her new husband Jim Toth - they tied the knot just last week - and her gorgeous kids Ava, 11, and Deacon, 7. But don't assume she "has it all."
“There’s this fallacy that we can have it all. I get it often, ‘Oh, you have it all’ - and I don’t," she insists. "It’s hard. And there are times I take two years off and I don’t work. And there are times I go to work and I feel sick because I can’t see my kids for five days. And it’s real hard to go. Work is important to me. The kids are important to me. My relationship’s important to me. But all three can’t be functioning at 100 per cent at all times."
The Oscar-winner also weighs in on what it's like to be a woman in Hollywood these days.
“I’m not going to lie, it’s fun to watch," Reese says of all the red carpet hoopla. "But at a certain point, I go, ‘Wait, strip it all down.’ These girls—I shouldn’t say girls, these women—worked really hard, really hard, and now it’s reduced to … ‘She looks frumpy.’... We’re just too hard on each other. Women need to be more supportive of each other, stop tearing each other apart. There’s plenty of room for all of us. There’s plenty of men for all of us. There’s plenty of jobs. There’s plenty of room! I really believe it. Another actress out there has a number-one movie? They’re going to make more movies about women. A female writer sells a script? They’re going to look at another script from another woman. The better one woman does, the better all women do.”
Elle isn't the only magazine Reese covers at the moment - Hello! has a wedding day shot of the happy bride. Beautiful!
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I hope this was taken out of context. She has a healthy family, a nice paying job, stability, a new husband who seems wonderful.. if that is not "all" then she needs a psychiatric evaluation!
That's exactly what I was going to say! How can she say she doesn't have it all?! Maybe she doesn't get the meaning of the phrase, it doesn't mean you have to be completely happy 100% of the time, it just means you have all the things that most people want out of life (money, good job, good relationship, happy kids).
I especially envy that she talks about taking 2 years off as if it's a hardship...if only I could take 2 years off without worrying financially! (Hell if I were her I'd probably have retired to an island somewhere 5 years ago).
Why Do so many moms who work outside of the home always seem so defensive. You seem to be the ones who have attitude about it. She earned the rights and luxuries she has, no need for jealous animosity.
If you read jealous animosity into my post, that's the fault of your interpretation. I envy her lifestyle, but I have no animosity toward Reese. She's worked hard for what she has and I enjoy her movies.
The fact is, if I had a great job, wealth, a good relationship and great kids, I would think I had it all, and the fact that she doesn't think that is kind of sad. I would like to know what else she thinks she could ask out of life. No one will ever get perfection.
Imagine if, say, Katie Holmes made that statement, there'd be dozens of comments on here about how she doesn't appreciate the good life she has.
(And I still say I'd be on a tropical island if I were Reese ;)
I don't see her as lamenting her life position. I think she may not have articulated her position very well, or perhaps it is literary license from the interviewer. In my opinion she is stating that people should not be envious of her if THEY think she has it all. Because she obviously has to sacrifice her privacy and her normality in retrun for the luxurious lifestyle she has been blessed with.
I agree though Katie Holmes would be lambasted if she says it's sunny out and it is really partly cloudy, the port girl cannot win.
A, I think I get what you mean, but I think Reese just means that her life isn't perfect. Yes she has all those things you listed, and for alot of people in the world, they think if you have all those things, life suddenly turned perfect but it's doesn't.
Agree, it irks me when woman say they have it all. They "work", " have kids", a great "family" etc. They do not seem to understand that something is suffering. Either your kids do not get the attention they need, or your work suffers if they do- and that is never fair to your colleagues who have to pick up the slack. And unless you are a goddess your relationship with your husband is a work in progress. Let's face it something always suffers. As a stay at home mom too- I choose to allow my own needs to take a backseat until my children are in school. I love it and do not resent it, but it affects my financial independence.
I think anyone that expects perfection is living in a fantasy world.
i can't stand her!!!!!!!! i think we all wish we could take 2 years off to just be with our kids, we wish we got payed milliones for working a couple months, she sound so ungrateful, what do you need to have it all???? Of course she ain't happy every second, nobody is!!
I hate her attiud of i'm so down to earth when she really isn't.
I agree with her 100%. You cannot have it all. Women who think they can are only fooling themselves. If you work, you miss out on the beautiful moments of your Childs life. And if you stay at home, as I do, you tend to yearn for adult interaction.
She is honest and I commend her for that.
Agree with you, and kudos for being a stay at home mom! Best job in the world
Some people just hate her because they want to. She obviously appreciates what she has but is saying "My life is NOT perfect" and I'm confused why people are getting their panties in a bunch over it.
Reese is wonderful :) Her comments are so refreshing!
she sounds arrogant, though i do think she means perfect not "i don't have it all".
I think she's trying to say it isn't always easy. Enjoying your job doesn't mean you can't miss your kids. Being off work doesn't mean you can't miss your craft. Having kids doesn't mean you can't miss your private time or vica versa. .
I imagine she knows that generally she's blessed.
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