Busy these days promoting her new cookbook, My Father’s Daughter, Gwyneth admits it can be hard leaving her family behind.
“I don’t feel guilty unless I am tipping the balance badly,” the Oscar-winner explains. “For example, before Christmas, I went away five times, just little trips, but it was too much for my son – he was very upset and started crying and acting up. I felt horribly guilty. He’s little and he needs me. But I have just been with them for seven weeks solid, so I am fine with being away this week.”
When she returns home a few days later, she says, “They will all be up and waiting for me. I’ll cook and we’ll play in the garden with the dog.”
Cooking is what Gwyneth does to “feel calm and happy,” she reveals.
“I am traditional in a 1950s housewife way – cooking, making sure everyone’s fed and everything’s in order. I think a wife has a responsibility to make a home and to protect the family. I also believe that a wife should have the choice to work or not. My mother was a less traditional wife than me; she was working to support the family.”
Front man for the uber-popular band Coldplay, her husband Chris Martin is a huge star in his own right. But Gwyneth says they both share in the parenting duties.
“We co-parent. We do it together. I don’t know what the word strict means; I expect them to have good manners and to behave nicely – sometimes it is such a war to get them to say thank you. The other day, while we were out having dinner, a waiter gave my daughter some juice, and she didn’t say anything. I said, ‘Apple? Baby, where are your manners?’ and she said, ‘I left them in my suitcase.’ It was hilarious.”
So might there be another baby in the couple’s future? Probably not – despite the fact that she took time out from the interview to swoon over a passing baby.
“It makes me want to have another one, he is sooo gorgeous!” Gwyneth says, but when asked if she might try for baby #3, she says, “I don’t think so. I don’t know if I can go there again, not sleep and be depressed for two years.”
Gwyneth has plenty to keep her busy as it is. Along with her family, her acting and her lifestyle site GOOP, she’s branched out into cookbooks. My Father’s Daughter was written in honor of her late dad Bruce Paltrow. The pair were incredibly close, and Gwyneth admits that though he passed away 8 years ago, his death still haunts her.
“It was devastating beyond belief and I am still very traumatised at the memory. I still feel it in my nervous system. I wish he was still alive and it’s a real weight that I carry, like a black hole. My friends say, ‘He’s always with you,’ and I say, ‘Oh rubbish. No, he’s not, he’s dead.’…. I don’t feel my father around or anything. I don’t know if I will see him again,” she muses, adding, “He never got to see his grandchildren. That really sucks because he would have been the best grandfather.”
My Father’s Daughter hit bookstores this week.