To say it’s been a difficult year for Christina Aguilera would be putting it mildly. But after a divorce, an arrest and a highly publicized national anthem flop, the musical mom-of-one is moving on. In a new interview with US magazine, the talented star of The Voice talks divorce, motherhood, and finding new love.
On her divorce from Jordan Bratman: “It was really hard, but if you stay in a marriage where the two parties are unhappy, then you’re doing your child a disservice. It’s better to have two houses full of love than one of chaos. I grew up in a household where domestic violence occurred and the greatest gift for me, as a child, was the day my parents got divorced. [Aguilera has often been frank about her father hitting her mother.] The key to having a happy child is having a happy parent. Kids are like sponges: They take on everything.”
On how her 3-year-old son Max gets along with her new boyfriend Matt Rutler, who lives with them: “Matt and Max! It’s like M&M! They’re buddies. If my son didn’t sit well with him, then I wouldn’t sit well with him. Matt’s someone he can have fun with and have some laughs with. And ultimately, my son’s happiness is really important. But I’m not looking for anyone to come in and fill the perfect family white-picket-fence. Me and my little boy are a great team, and Matt has been such a great support.”
On Max having a famous Mommy: “He’s learning that he’s got to share Mommy’s attention a bit. We’ll be going through the parks at Disneyland and people come up for autographs and he gets very protective. If someone tries to shake my hand or put their arm around me, he’ll say, ‘Don’t touch my Mommy!'”
On what she loves about Matt: “His sincerity – and the fact that he’s so easygoing. There’s never any drama. We recently took a vacation to Florida and went mini-golfing. We just have fun together. Things are light and free – and I’m a free spirit, so it’s important for me to have someone who supports me living my life and letting me be the woman I need to be…”