With a beautiful baby boy at home and her new album The Light Of The Sun topping the charts, life is good these days for singer Jill Scott. The single mom – she split from her fiance Lil John right around the time of their son Jett‘s birth in 2009 – recently opened up to US magazine about music and motherhood.
On how motherhood has influenced her music: “There’s something about having a child. I don’t know, maybe the 36 hours of labor? It just gave me a new appreciation for my self and my femininity. And my strength, you know, I think that’s what it was. I walked into recording this record and wanted to be strong and free and even strong in my vulnerability. It’s something about having a baby – I’ve been calling it lava in my spine. It’s given me some fearlessness and I’m really enjoying how I feel. It’s almost like my first record. I’m not worried about who’s going to like it and who’s not. I’m being all of me, and it feels stupendous. I don’t want to leave this feeling.”
On singing about her split: “There’s definitely some stories about heartbreak and trying to move past that. When you’re getting lost in the flesh and something I call being victimized, you just get lost in the whole sexual experience of it all. I talk about knowing one person is not necessarily for your benefit and its just a sexual relationship. I try to empower women. There’s power in your curves, there’s power in your mind, there’s power in the whole being. My goal is to continue being a whole person. I’m more than my physical form and I’m enjoying my physical form but I’m more than that.”
On giving up on her post-split celibacy vow: “Now the minimum is until the fifth date. The whole celibacy thing, you could throw that out the window. That’s over. But I don’t have physical intimacy until at least the fifth date. So I can get to know who I’m dealing with and they can get to know me. And with my schedule, five dates can take three or four months! It just gives me a chance to get to know the person. So we talk on the phone pretty much every day or maybe we Skype or have a date and we have fun. I’m getting to know someone so I know if they’re crazy or not. I just don’t want to waste my time. I’m just trying to look at the mistakes that I made. I got so caught up in the flesh and I’m not even allowing someone to get to know the best parts of me. I’m a single girl in the world, but if I don’t have some standards then I can be making the same mistakes that I made in the past. I do want love. Genuine love. And sometimes sex can get in the way.”