Brad Pitt opens up about family and finding time for what’s important in life in this Sunday’s issue of PARADE. The 47-year-old father-of-six discusses “being a satisfied man,” his marriage to Jennifer Aniston, and building a family with the woman he loves, longtime partner Angelina Jolie: “Oh, man, I’m so happy to have her.”
The Moneyball star says life good! “I put much more emphasis on being a satisfied man,” Pitt says. “I’m satisfied with making true choices and finding the woman I love, Angie, and building a family that I love so much. A family is a risky venture, because the greater the love, the greater the loss. … That’s the trade-off. But I’ll take it all.”
Pitt goes on to say that he was not living authentically when married to Jennifer Aniston.
I spent the ‘90s trying to hide out, trying to duck the full celebrity cacophony,” he says. “I started to get sick of myself sitting on a couch, holding a joint, hiding out. It started feeling pathetic. It became very clear to me that I was intent on trying to find a movie about an interesting life, but I wasn’t living an interesting life myself. I think that my marriage [to Jennifer Aniston] had something to do with it. Trying to pretend the marriage was something that it wasn’t.”
But Angie, on the other hand…“One of the greatest, smartest things I ever did was give my kids Angie as their mom” Pitt gushes. “She is such a great mom. Oh, man, I’m so happy to have her.”
Pitt – who is dad to Maddox, 10, Pax, 7, Zahara, 6½, Shiloh, 5, and 3-year-old twins Knox and Vivienne – with Jolie, says fatherhood was very much “instinctual.”
“I was surprised at how automatic it is, how much of it is instinctual,” he says. “And now I have a great confidence and trust in those instincts. I mean, one sound at night and you’re awake and up because they may need you. Or when they start to have a tantrum, you know to divert them from spinning out by helping them focus on something. It just goes on and on. I tell them, ‘You can make a mess, but you’ve got to clean it up.’”
The hunky actor discusses adopting soon after meeting Jolie.
When Angie and I first met, we came together quite quickly and we decided we were adopting,” Pitt says. “Now the rules are that because we are not married, I can’t adopt. Angie adopts. We decided we were adopting a daughter. We were going to do it right out of the gate. We were not going to mess around. Angie said, ‘No shopping [for kids].’ I thought that was astute and beautifully put. It took the pressure off of adoption and brought a magic to it. We had set our parameters—we had room in our family if anyone needed a home. We got the call, and that’s our eldest daughter, Zahara.”
He goes on to talk about adopting from impoverished nations.
“You get an attachment to people and places that you see,” he says. “If you see suffering when you’re there, then you’ve made a connection to those people and you have to act on it. Once you have an understanding of it then you have to try to help. I say to people, go travel the world. Open your eyes. See it.”
When asked about nature versus nurture, Pitt says it’s mostly nature. “If you ask me about nature versus nurture, I’m going to say it is 80 percent nature, absolutely,” he says. “You see [a child’s character] six, maybe nine months in. Now, some of our kids need more nurturing than others. Some have more delicacy. They’re all just unique individuals.”
He goes on to talk about his bilingual kids.
All our kids are speaking French, so now we have that second language infused into our home,” Pitt says. “Everyone is learning another language. I’ve got the Rosetta Stone for French sitting right on the table in the bedroom, and it’s going to be loaded into my brain. I know there are certain synapses in my brain that just freeze dead at French, but I have to learn it because our kids are speaking it. [Laughs] Even the twins as babies were saying certain things in French.”
And just a note on the many rumors surrounding the super-couple.
“I mean, how many stories have you read that aren’t true, stories about me and Angie being married or fighting or splitting up?” Pitt says. “And when we don’t split up, there’s a whole new round that we’ve made up and we’re back together again! We’ll get married when everyone can. We’re not splitting up. And we don’t have a seventh child yet.”
Watch for Pitt’s new movie Moneyball to hit the big screen on September 23.