Looking forward to starting a family, Hugh recalls the disappointment he and his wife Deborra Lee Furness felt when they discovered they couldn’t conceive.
“It was painful. It’s not easy. You put a lot of time and effort into it, so it’s emotional. I think any parent can relate – trying to have children is wonderful and when you feel as though that’s not going to happen, there’s a certain anxiety that goes with it.”
The Wolverine star says that he and Deborra had always planned on adopting, but when they “decided we’d had enough of ivf” it ended up happening sooner than they’d expected.
As it turns out, the handsome actor reveals, adoption was their destiny all along.
“From the moment we started the adoption process, all the anxiety went away. I don’t think of them [son Oscar, 11, and daughter Ava, 6] as adopted – they’re our children. Deb and I are believers in … I suppose you could call it destiny. We feel things happened the way they are meant to. Obviously, biologically wasn’t the way we were meant to have children. Now, as we go through life together, sure there are challenges, but everyone’s in the right place with the right people. It sounds airy-fairy, but it’s something we feel very deeply.”
So is their family-of-four now complete? Well… probably.
“We thought we’d have a number of kids. But travelling and being hands-on parents, which is what we try to be, isn’t easy,” he admits. “That conversation hasn’t been tabled for about 12 months, which is probably a good way of saying it’s not going to happen.”
It may not always be easy, but the devoted dad is quick to add that it is well worth it.
“Kids are the greatest joy. No matter what’s going on in the day, you can walk in that front door and it all goes away. Particularly with Ava – she’s a mini-Deb and so funny. She said to me the other day, ‘I’m just like Mum. I’m always right!’ And you know what? She is.”