She explains, “We’re grown-ups at the end of the day, and however hard it’s been for me, it’s been equally hard for him. And we have a child together who we both love – and raising him together, jointly and without any conflict, is absolutely key.”
Winslet, who also has a daughter named Mia with ex-husband Jim Threapleton, added, “One thing I will say about me and Sam is that it’s fine, it’s really fine. I’m not going to s***fling, there’s no point in even going there. It is what it is.”
She adds, “[Co-parenting with an ex] is the only way to do it, and I’ve really learnt that with Mia.”
Soon after separating from Mendes in March 2010, Winslet admits she soldiered on and had to learn to let go and cry.
The Mildred Pierce star said, “As a woman, especially when you have children, one gets so good at soldiering on – almost too good. Because you know what it’s like – as soon as you open that can of worms, it’s so f***ing big, you wish you’d never taken the goddamn lid off.
“I’ve had to remind myself to have those moments of being able to have a f***ing good cry, but it did take someone putting their hand on me – a gay male friend, actually, who put his hand on my shoulder and said, ‘It’s OK, you can cry about this, and maybe you should.’ ”
After two failed marriages she is determined to make sure the splits will not affect her children.
There’s no way that I’m going to allow my children to be f***ed up because my marriages haven’t worked out. I so wish that that wasn’t the case, that that hadn’t happened in my life, but it has. So I will make the best of it.”
Rumored to be dating Richard Branson’s nephew, Ned Rocknroll, she’s ready for whatever comes.
“I feel that I’m just at the beginning of a new narrative, and it’s incredibly exciting,” she tells the mag. “It’s complicated, I know, and uncertain – but it’s where life happens, between the cracks. It can be a painful process, but I truly hope that never stops for me.”