Cougar Town funny woman Busy Phillipps recently lit up the big screen with her role in I Don’t Know How She Does It and the part she played in the movie is very similar to the role she plays at home – mom.
The actress recently say down with Parents magazine and opened up about being mom to her 3-year-old daughter Birdie, dishing about balancing work and motherhood, her parenting style, and the biggest lesson her daughter has taught her.
On balacing her work life with her home life:
“I think learning to say no is very important, however, I have not mastered that yet. I, in fact, feel like I say yes to everything – making cakes for other kids’ birthdays, doing improv shows at midnight, stranger’s podcast… The list goes on. The truth is, I’m happiest when I’m living up to my name (oh god, I’ve just made a Busy joke — kill me now). But my daughter, Birdie, is always my first priority and I cherish the time we spend together. I would say 98 percent of the time, I’m able to put her to bed at night. Since that’s something that is really important to both of us, I try to schedule work things around that. You know, like, yes, I’ll do your podcast but only AFTER 8pm… Look, some days you win and some days you feel like you need to do it all better — I think not being too hard on yourself is key — and also knowing when you need to ask for help…that’s for sure something I’ve needed to learn to do since becoming a mom…”
On using humor as a criteria in parenting:
“I think that very early on, I realized that if I couldn’t come at this parenting thing with humor, I would not only lose my mind, but probably my marriage as well. I took great comfort in something I read in a Dr. Sears book which basically said to remember that the difficult moments WILL pass, and then at some point, you’ll long for the days when your child wanted nothing but to be held by you or rocked to sleep or breast-fed for ten hours straight. (I’m not sure about that last one…) But basically, this early childhood time is SO fleeting and before you know it, you’ve got some huge person living with you. I think the chances of liking your kids as they grow into adults, and I mean REALLY LIKING, not loving (because obviously you always will love your children no matter what) has a lot to do with this early time in their lives. Birdie is at a point now where she’s more likely to laugh when something doesn’t go her way than cry or get mad. She’s developing her own, very unique, very weird sense of humor. I like to hear the stories she wants to tell me, or the way she interprets things that have happened to her or that she’s seen. The fact is, maybe because I’m lucky enough to have a job that affords me the luxury of SOMETIMES being a stay at home mom and SOMETIMES working full time, I’m able to appreciate both sides so completely.”
On the biggest thing she has learned from her daughter:
“To let go. Becoming a mom allowed me to just relax in a way I never had before. I used to care A LOT about what I looked like in public, or what people thought of me. I care at least 40 percent less now (she says sarcastically…HA!). I want Bird to see her mom as a woman who is confident and real; not someone who’s always trying too hard. Don’t get me wrong, I still like to dress up and get fancy from time to time but it’s OK to be sweaty and without makeup at the grocery store or when you’re flying internationally. I may be an actress, but that is NOT what defines me as a woman. It’s just a part of who I am. The bigger part, to me, is being Birdie’s mom, (my husband) Marc’s wife, and how I’ve worked very hard to grow the past ten or so years. Does that make sense?”
Continue reading Busy’s interview with Parents magazine!