Ethan Hawke Talks About “The Black Years” After His Divorce

Ethan Hawke Talks About "The Black Years" After His Divorce

Ethan Hawke is content with his life now. However things weren’t always going so well with the actor. He tells The Guardian that he suffered a dark period following his divorce from Uma Thurman in 2004.

He said, “I call it the black years. It was really difficult. It was difficult in ways I couldn’t even see at the time. There was the obvious way in which it was difficult – the death of a dream, the inability to parent in the way that you want to. But for me it was – what’s that Dante quote? ‘At the midpoint of my life, I’ve come to the part of the forest where the straight way is lost.’ Nothing teaches you like getting leveled. And I got leveled in my early 30s.”

Hawke, 41, added, “Nothing went exactly the way I thought it would. Wait a second: love isn’t real and, holy s**t, I put all this energy into not making the same mistake my parents did and I just re-enacted them all! I thought I was so much smarter than everybody. And I’m not.”

Now married to Ryan Shawhughes – whom he started dating in 2005 and married in 2008 – he’s finding being a father to Maya, 13, Levon,10, Clementine, 3, and 6-month-old Indiana easier this time.

I’m really the right age now. I like being home. When Mia was born, I was 27. It was three years after Reality Bites came out. I look at pictures of myself and wonder: what was I thinking?” What was he thinking? “I think I thought when I was younger that I would, like, get things and then it would all be easy. You’d be able to walk whatever road you wanted and then sadly you would start having arthritis, but by then you’d have kids and everything would be fine. I didn’t really understand what a meandering road adulthood is.”

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  1. Anonymous

    Um didn’t he cheat on uma w this skank? I’m pretty sure she was the nanny to their kids and started fooling around w her… Let’s hope they have a male nanny this go around!

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    • Anonymous

      I think you’ve got your timeline wrong. Ryan was their nanny BEFORE they split. She didn’t start dating him until a year AFTER he split with Uma. She isn’t the one who had anything to do with his divorce.

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  2. Anonymous

    His new wife is the former nanny. I used to like him but don’t have much respect for him after saying how sad he is that his marriage failed. Maybe if you hadn’t boinked the nanny that wouldn’t have happened.

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  3. Anonymous

    All I can says is how F* ck up do you have to be to cheat with the nanny their are a million other woman out their and he chose the nanny, the preston that was living in the house with his family taking care of his kids that’s really low.

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  4. Jem

    she’s not even attractive- very rough and haggard looking compared to beautiful uma.

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  5. Annika

    He was NOT cheating with the nanny. They got together later.

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  6. Anonymous

    hey, he’s still with her so that says something…. it’s not like he serial cheated on his wife like some. be happy for them, uma doesn’t exactly have a strong track record.

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  7. Anonymous

    hey, at least he’s still with this woman, and seemingly… happy. it’s not like he went through some typical midlife crisis and serial cheated. be happy for him and his new family. uma will be fine. she let gary oldham get away!

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