In her first blog for iVillage, actress Jessica Alba writes about what life is like since welcoming 8-month-old daughter Haven with husband Cash Warren, and how 3-year-old daughter Honor is adjusting to being a big sister. Says the mom-of-two: “…with Haven, in a nutshell, I’m more relaxed…I let it go and move on to more important things, like savoring every moment I have with my precious little girls.”
After Honor was born, our very tidy, sparsely decorated house became all things kid overnight!” Jess writes. “Adding another little one to the brood was just a matter of time. However, we wanted to wait until Honor was potty-trained and out of her “baby” stage before expanding our family. We wanted around a three-year age gap between our children for two main reasons: First, we wanted Honor to get as much love and attention as humanly possible as a baby. Second, we couldn’t imagine hauling twice the amount of baby gear everywhere we went. We like to live on-the-go and having two kids in diapers would make any decision (going to the park, dinner at a restaurant, family travel, playdates, etc.) significantly more challenging because of the amount of baby swag you would need to bring.”
The Little Fockers actress, 30, goes on to gush about “little Miss Haven.”
As fate would have it, as soon as we were mentally prepared for adding a second child, we were blessed with the most cuddly, smiley, sweet-natured baby girl in the world — Haven,” she writes. “I’m not going to pretend like I wasn’t concerned about bringing another little one into the world. I mean, Honor was our everything! How would it be possible for us to love anyone, in a million years, as much as we love her?!? Frankly, I didn’t think I had the capacity. But literally, overnight, everything changed as little Miss Haven shed her bright light on us and all of our hearts burst open even further.”
The mom-of-two says her elder daughter, Honor Marie, is a wonderful big sister.
I was also not quite sure how Honor would transition to being a big sister,” Jessica shares. “She was used to being the center of attention and having Cash and me all to herself. But she has adjusted wonderfully. She is proud of her new “big sister” role, super-helpful with small tasks, and she really can’t stop herself from constantly loving on her little sis.”
Jessica goes on to say she’s “evolved” as a parent. “I feel like most of my irrational, overprotective and weary new mom behavior evolved into a more easygoing, laid-back approach with my second child,” she says.
She adds: “So with Haven, in a nutshell, I’m more relaxed,” she writes. “I try not to let every cough or bump on the head freak me out because Honor made it through infancy in one piece and I trust Haven will too.”
Continue reading Jessica’s blog at iVillage…