In her latest blog for iVillage, actress Jessica Alba writes about keeping the flame alive with husband Cash Warren. The mom-of-two daughters – Honor, 3, and Haven, 8 months – says that the recipe for success in the Alba-Warren household is thanks to “maintaining a family schedule.” Read on…
“It’s hard to imagine what life is going to be like after your first baby, not to mention your second! Diapers are a certainty. Sleepless nights, coffee, and concealer (lots of it) are probably guaranteed too,” Jess writes. “Having time to see a movie or enjoy a glass of wine by yourself — let alone with your husband — before your kids head off to college? I know — it feels like an impossibility or a far-off dream. But I can assure you it’s not,” she says.
The Little Fockers star goes on to share her No. 1 parenting trick — keep to a schedule.
When I was pregnant with Honor, I was lucky that I could dispel some of these worries by turning to my mommy friends,” Jess shares. “We talked shop about all the baby stuff and parenting tricks they’d already learned after bringing home their little ones. During one of these chats, my girlfriend Kelly shared one life-changing word with me: “Schedule!” She had transitioned her babies to a consistent 7 p.m. bedtime, so she knew that she could have some grown-up time each night. And everyone, including her daughters, was happier for it.”
And as it turns out, Jessica’s 9-year relationship with Cash has benefitted from keeping to a routine.
“Thankfully, her knowledge was my gain,” Jess writes. “Cash and I have also found that maintaining a family schedule is the key to making time for each other. Whether we’re settling into the couch to watch bad reality television or getting a babysitter so we can enjoy a date night out, we always know we have dedicated time after the girls are asleep to catch up, discuss what’s on our minds, and simply just be with each other (no cell phones or e-mail allowed!).”
Carving out this alone time is especially important after almost nine years together, too,” she admits. “Often feeling tired after a busy day at work and home, I know how easy it is to take each other for granted or let our relationship sit on the back burner and think, “It will be there tomorrow, now it’s time for sleep.” So, making time for our relationship in our daily routine — even though it’s surprisingly predictable and may not seem as spicy as our spontaneous pre-kiddo days — really helps keep the romance alive.
Continue reading Jessica’s blog at iVillage…