As a self-proclaimed attached parent to her 1-year-old son Ever and fueled by the infamous Time magazine cover depicting a 3-year-old feeding at his mother’s breast, seven-time Grammy winning singer Alanis Morissette recently opened up about her thoughts on attachment parenting and how long mothers should breastfeed their children.
“The goal of attachment parenting is to provide your child with a deep sense of connectedness and bonding, while the goal of the exploration stage is to provide space for their utter freedom to express their authentic selves while being protected and kept safe,” the You Outta Know singer blogs for The Huffington Post. “This delicate blend will make for a securely attached, connected and authentically expressed child, who feels free, safe and protected.”
“If these stages are thwarted, a child’s ability to navigate adulthood and connect with human beings later in life is at risk,” she adds. “That’s the real irony that many people are confused by — attachment parents believe that the more we tend to our child’s needs during those first stages, the MORE independence and interdependence he or she will have later in their life!”
I personally believe that the attachment stage, done well, can circumvent countless addictions later in life because many of these addictions are often a temporary attempt at feeling this sense of connection. If a child’s needs during this stage of development are not met, he or she will be staving off a haunting sense of cellular disconnection and loneliness for a lifetime. they will not have effectively internalized a loving nurturance as their own love-style.”
As far as breastfeeding goes, Alanis tells ABC News that she is still nursing her son and will only stop when Ever is ready.
“[Ever's] particular style is that — wherever we are, if he sits down and looks at me, it’s time to snuggle, you know? It’s peppered throughout the day, more and less, depending upon what he needs,” she reveals. “I know some children who have weaned naturally at two years, some kids wean naturally a couple of years later. I mean, it’s up to every child.”
The family’s philosophy is to have as much skin-on-skin contact with Ever as possible, including sharing the same bed.
“The bed is consistent in that Ever is always with one of us,” the rocker mama says. “I’m always available if he needs me, period. I love snuggling and sleeping next to him.”