Should You Let Your Baby Cry It Out?


By Dr. Lisa Kaplin

Sound parenting advice from a mother and psychologist.

This week I saw another in a slew of studies and opinions about how to raise your children. As a mother and a psychologist, I find this trend of battling opinions to be crazy-making fodder for frustrated parents.

There are a few things we know for sure. Don’t abuse your children. Do feed, clothe and shelter them. Beyond that, you can probably find some sketchy opinion or study to back up any position you take on parenting.

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  • Allison


  • Sophia

    I would say letting a distressed baby, who has no idea why this is happening to them, scream and cry on its own in a dark room is pretty damn close to abuse.

    • Allison

      Totally agree Sophia! Very well said!

  • Jennifer

    This is a hard one. My second baby did not sleep through the night until he was 18 mo. old. With almost two years of our family not having adequete sleep, I had to go with the advice of my pediatrician to really sleep train our son. Now…I am a devoted Mommy who would do anything and everything for my children…but, there comes a time, with some children, and my son was one….that HE wanted to be in charge at night and become manipulative about wanting us busy with him during the night. So..yes, we had to let him cry it out a little…and I really used some of Supernanny Jo Frost’s techniques….a nighttime routine of bath, storytime, quiet time, then putting him down to sleep, if he cried, going in once…’it’s bedtime, sweetie” reassuring him from the side of the crib, not picking him up…..and eventually, he was able to put himself back to sleep. As a tiny baby, I do believe you have to assess babies needs if they wake at night…feeding, changing diaper, making sure they are ok and feeling well….. but at 18-24 mo, we did have to let our son cry it out a little. And now…at almost 4, he is a great sleeper. Thank goodness!

  • Jacquie

    I guess that really depends on the situation, you can’t say yes or no either way until you’re in the situation. If they are fed, changed, burped, healthy, and comforted but still crying. It can be better for both parent and baby to put them safely in their crib/play pen and walk away for a few minutes. Parenting can be overwhelming and it is ok to admit that you aren’t a “super parent” who can handle everything all the time and need a minute away from their screams… I think in the long run, becoming over stressed by trying to be the “perfect parent” and turning into a manic depressant is worse than walking away from a screaming child long enough to calm your nerves.



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