From our friends at BabyCenter.com! By Sara McGinnis
The fact that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have to work on their marriage shouldn’t be a surprise, but when the actor stated so from the Oscars stage during 2013′s ceremony, many were left wondering what to make of the admission — notably, Jennifer Garner was not among them.
You may recall that while accepting the Best Picture Oscar for Argo, a bearded Ben Affleck said with a shaky, emotion-laden voice, “I want to thank my wife … for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It is work, but it’s the best kind of work. And there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
“I know Ben, I knew he meant it as the hugest, warmest compliment in the world,” Jennifer Garner recently told The Telegraph when asked about her husband’s unusual speech.
The 40-year-old mother of three added, “I think he was saying, ‘Look, what we have is really real and I value it above all and I’m in it with you and I know you are in it with me.’ That’s the way I took it.”
In hindsight, Ben Affleck’s comments were really much ado about nothing. He wasn’t hinting that there is trouble brewing in their 7-year marriage, he was just being honest in a way we’re not used to.
Hell yes, marriage takes work! My husband of 10 years and I just had a laugh the other night at how hard we have been working to get along whilst outside pressures have been piling up. “Can you imagine if we were fighting on top of everything else?” I asked him, thinking I could lose my sh*t at any minute over nothing. “Thanks for tip-toeing around me, us, while we’re so stressed out.”
We work it out — but I’m as guilty the rest about keeping the how and how often there’s effort being put in under tight wraps.
I’ve never been one to spill the personal details of any relationship to my mother or a girlfriend, but perhaps I ought to start. Would we all be better off and have a more realistic idea of what a marriage takes if we spoke openly about it? There is something a little comforting in knowing that Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck aren’t just floating along in ‘happily ever after’ while the rest of us try our darndest to sort things out!
Does your marriage or relationship take work?