Mom-of-four Gena Lee Nolin is inviting Celebrity Baby Scoop readers along as she shares her life experiences – and asks for advice – as she juggles her busy life with husband Cale Hulse and their four children: Spencer, 16, Caia, 11, Hudson, 6, and Stella, 4.
With Father’s Day this weekend, Gena talks about the importance of fatherly love in her latest guest blog. The former Baywatch star talks about the impact all “father figures” have on your unique story and upbringing, and she also reveals why her hubby, Cale, has “the natural gift of being a father.” Continue reading her words of wisdom, and share your thoughts, questions, and advice in the comments.
“Fathers are the ﬁrst men to comfort us, give us unconditional love, and if you remember, they are our ﬁrst loves. To me, fatherly love is important and essential for both sons and daughters; without that foundation, life can be even more of a struggle than it already is.
Growing up, I had a close friend who lost her father early in life. She rarely spoke of him, but I knew his absence left her feeling insecure. She always doubted her self-worth and showed negativity. Looking back on her situation, it actually makes complete sense now. Today I’m happy to report that my friend is an amazing woman, wife, and mother! Her wonderful stepfather raised and nurtured her in a healthy environment. Case in point, fathers don’t necessarily have to be your birth father; they can be any nurturing ‘father ﬁgure’ in your life. Everyone has a different story– some are happy-go-lucky and others are incredibly sad!–but a ‘father figure’ plays a vital role in all upbringings.
Fathers set the bar for almost everything in life and deserve much more than just one day of celebration. For girls, fathers usually affect the type of men she’ll date and ultimately marry. For boys, fathers usually affect their work ethic and most likely the way they treat their life partners. It’s truly astounding when you think of the impact fathers have on us and our future decisions.
Every day, I look at my husband Cale and think to about how lucky my children are to have him. He became a stepfather when we got married on September 3, 2004. At just 7-years-old, Spencer was just a half-pint and I always thought that they fell in love before we did. Cale’s daughters, Caia and Stella, have a father who truly cares about them and it’s so wonderful that the girls know they have such a man to support them.
Cale was truly given the natural gift of being a father. He’s ﬁrm, but fair. He’s also tough, yet soft and gentle when needed. It doesn’t come easy for some men; it could be a downright challenge and that can test the best of us. But our children, Spencer, Caia, Hudson, and Stella have been given the gifts of conﬁdence, a strong foundation, and the freedom to be who they are. Cale often says, ‘I’m not their friend, I’m their father! We’ll be friends when they invite me over to their houses for barbecues with their own families!’ He’s has a great perspective and down-home truth to his fatherly duties. It’s no secret why he was Captain and Assistant Captain on the NHL teams he played for. He’s a leader and, as a result, he effortlessly leads our house. Together, we make a great team!
Daddy definitely came to the rescue for all of us! Stella had colic and, let me tell you, she’d scream for hours on end. It’s the most helpless feeling for a parent, and, thankfully, Cale would take her out of my arms and whisper sweet nothings in her ear. They’d sway through the house and within minutes she’d shockingly go from wailing to cooing. From that moment on, Cale was nicknamed ‘The Baby Whisperer.’ My daughter had been ofﬁcially swept away by her ﬁrst ‘Prince Charming,’ and I was there to witness it.
It all comes down to this: without the fathers, stepfathers, grandfathers, and other ‘father figures’ of the world, life just wouldn’t be the same! Cheers to those of you who make a difference in a child’s life! I stand up and applaud you all! Happy Father’s Day!”View Slideshow »»