Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony were spotted with 5-year-old twins Max and Emme in Los Angeles, Calif. on Wednesday (June 19). Putting on a united front for their kids, the friendly exes attended an event at the twins’ school.
“When Marc and I decided to separate, I thought, ‘I’m not going to let this turn me into someone unhopeful who doesn’t believe [in love] anymore.’” J.Lo recently told Telegraph. “I didn’t want to just survive it. I wanted to grow from it. And I did learn a lot.”
“Most importantly, to love myself first,” Jennifer continued. “As women, I don’t think we do that enough. We always love somebody else more than ourselves.”
She added: “I did that for a long time and I couldn’t understand why things weren’t working. Then I realised that I wasn’t valuing myself in the way that I deserved.”
“You accept things that are less than what you want, and then you wonder why you find yourself in these situations,” Jennifer continued. “You think, ‘I wouldn’t treat anyone in this way so why am I being treated like this? Why can’t I find somebody who treats me in the way that I treat them?”’
And she also talked about losing the 50 pounds she gained during her pregnancy.
“When I got pregnant, I remember watching my back, belly and butt grow and thinking, ‘I will never be the same again,’” she shared.
She added: “Then I remember right after the twins were born having that weird jiggly belly – and kind of loving that, too. Because I earned that jiggly belly. Then came trying to get my body back into shape and how long that took. A whole year.”
In terms of the illusion Hollywood sets on postpartum bodies, Jennifer said, “It’s bull. Sure, you can dress nicely after a couple of months and people will say, ‘Oh, look how amazing they look in a picture taken from a good angle.’”
“But the truth is it takes your body time to go back, and I think these days women are too hard on themselves with that,” she added. “Nobody bounces back straightaway. You don’t know what kind of Spanx these women are wearing under their clothes, and what other tricks are going on.”
She went on to say that motherhood is her ”first and most favorite thing.”
She added: “It’s also the scariest thing, so terrifying and daunting. But it brings me so much joy. I think about being a performer and having all these amazing moments on stage and movie sets.”
“Still nothing matches the joy I get from coming off stage and having my kids waiting there in the wings,” J.Lo shared. “That’s when my two worlds collide and I feel whole.”
When asked what the twins think of her job, she laughed, “They know that mom sings and dances.”
And Emme has already taken control of her wardrobe, the proud mom continues.
“People are born a certain way,” Jennifer shares. “They can learn and grow and evolve but they have a DNA to them and from very early on she was in my closet, sitting among the clothes. She loves fashion, jewellery and hats – and she’s picked up things from me. I like to lay my outfits on the floor so I can look at them and she’s started doing that, too.”
She added of her mini fashionista: “She’ll have her little jacket and shorts laid out, add a little bag to it and then stand back and look at it.”View Slideshow »»