Mom-of-four Gena Lee Nolin is inviting Celebrity Baby Scoop readers along as she shares her life experiences – and asks for advice – as she juggles her busy life with husband Cale Hulse and their four children: Spencer, 16, Caia, 11, Hudson, 6, and Stella, 4.
In her latest guest blog, Gena talks about the importance of carving out ‘me’ time. The former Baywatch star, 41, talks about the everyday stressors of motherhood and the value of taking a “mommy timeout” every now and again. Continue reading her words of wisdom, and share your thoughts, questions, and advice in the comments.
“Mommy Time Out
Having four children that range in ages from 4 to 16 years old has definitely put a damper on any extra ‘me’ time that I used to have. It’s pretty easy to replace those carefree days of lunching and lounging with our girlfriends, to watching My Baby Can Read videos while wiping puke out of our hair.
Isn’t it funny how it just happens?
I’ve been puked on, pooped and peed on so many times that I don’t even flinch, I just grab a towel and do what needs to be done. My, how life changes after our beautiful babies [laughs].
This really shouts out to all the different hats our readers may wear — the stay-at-home moms, full or part-time working moms, it doesn’t matter. This is about finding time for you, not the latest and greatest stroller or diaper bag. Doesn’t that sound dreamy to think about you, even if it’s just for a moment? It most certainly does doggonit!
It’s essential to find alone time that we need to feel good about ourselves.
It can be as simple as working out, taking a run, going for a glass of wine with a girlfriend, or having a date night with our spouse. If you’re the primary caregiver to your children – this to me is the hardest job by far – I quickly found working outside of the home was much easier than staying home with little ones.
Regardless of what role you play, us women must have time to gather with other women. This goes back thousands of years ago, when women would take care of one another, help with their birthing needs, emotional needs, on and on. That must be where the term ‘Cackling Hens’ came from.
Let’s take some simple steps to make this dream a reality.
Have you heard of Groupon? If so, check it out. Find what’s going on locally that’s in your budget. Getting your nails done, massage, whatever it is, this is strictly about you. Next step: daycare. Nearby relatives that you can trust, drop-off daycare centers, your local gym or club that has top notch childcare — check out your options beforehand.
Now that you’ve got your plan, stick with it guilt-free!
Don’t forget, this might take a week or even a month to put in place. That’s okay, but the wheels are in motion and it’s your day that you’re planning.
Being a mommy is the best thing I’ve ever done, but in order to be the best I can be for my children and husband, I must have a ‘Mommy Time Out.’
This gives me time to reconnect with Cale, or sometimes, just myself! Whatever your definition is of relaxing without Elmo ringing in your ears, do it! It’s a necessity.
For the stay-at-home daddys out there, same to you! Go fishing alone for the afternoon. We don’t want to see you back until nightfall — just wear sunscreen. Or go grab a buddy and take in a game with wings afterwards.
As parents, we need time to unwind and relax. Trust me, your kids will thank you for it.
* This doesn’t apply to new parents. I would wake my baby up just to make sure he was breathing, then we’d change outfits and take pictures! In time [smiling], in due time newbies.”View Slideshow »»