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| Jan 21, 2010 by JENNY SCHAFER |
Are A-list parents Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie sending the wrong message to their 3 1/2-year-old daughter Shiloh by often dressing her up like a little boy? Manhattan psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert, who pens a column in Metro newspaper called No More Drama, weighs in on the subject with Us.
Shiloh at three years old may very well be expressing her preference for certain clothing and playing a role in what she wears. This is quite healthy as she is learning to make choices and think independently. If though, Brad and Angelina are dressing Shiloh in boys clothing to make a social or fashion statement, I suggest they stop," Alpert continues. "It's never a good idea for parents to defy societal or cultural norms at the expense of their child to make such statements -- it comes with a cost." (Brad and Angie have used their relationship to take a stand against inequality, saying they won't wed until gay marriage is legalized.)
Alpert goes on to say that Shiloh could be at risk of being, "picked on or ostracized by her peers, potentially leading to social problems, anxiety, and poor academic performance" when she enters school.
Carol Tuttle, a psychotherapist and the author of Dressing Your Truth-Real Beauty for Real Women, says Shiloh's style is "similar to a look Avril Lavigne made popular, and we still felt Avril's feminine nature coming through." But she warns, "if Angelina is choosing her daughter's clothes... she could be repressing her daughter's true nature."
"As parents, when we raise a child more true to our tendencies, personality traits, and nature rather than our children’s nature, we perpetuate the potential for a child to rebel in their teen years in an effort to be true to themselves," Tuttle says and adds, "Picking out their own clothes is a very healthy activity for a little 3-year-old girl."
What do you think? Are Brad & Angelina repressing Shiloh by dressing her as a boy?
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My sentiments exactly.
oh no!!!! she MUST be gay!!! lol
this whole article is unnecessary.
This discussion is just stupid. And i don't like the word tomboy, thats whats makes the child confused if something. She is still a girl even if she happens to like soccer and dress in blue and black. "You are not a real girl because you don't like pink and playing with dolls". And why does it all of a sudden become so horrible to force a kid into a role? Thats what we allready do when we dress upp boys and girls differently and raise them differently. Why does it become so uppsetting when you turn it around? Homofobia? All this is in our heads, not the childs.
Well, it's obviously more than "blue and black" that sparks the debate in the first place. The girl literally looks like a boy, not just a "tomboy". Many girls like to dress tomboy, but this girl looks EXACTLY like a boy, in an abnormal way.
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all i want to ask one question who the hell are we to tell parents to bring the children in that or this way. as a mother i will never tolerate coz i do not others to do this or that. do you have a life, i guess not.
This whole article was (poorly) written on the basis that Brangelina choose their daughters clothes for her. They don't. She picks them out herself. So... someone just delete this trash.
I work with small children, and to me she just looks like a 3 year old who has been allowed to pick her own clothing. I applaud this.
I love Angelina...always will. Tabloids are ridiculous.
This is stupid, the child is just growing up and can dress whichever way she feels comfortable. if she likes boyish clothing, so what? where is the law to state that females have to wear pink, or play with dollies? is it the same law that says women must cook and clean? grow up, let her wear whats she wants
i think its cute!
You're right this is stupid, I mean Angelina is stupid. At 3, there is absolutely NO WAY this child is choosing to dress this way herself. A 3 year old would NEVER chose to wear those hats with a loose tie around her neck like that. Get real. Second, if Angelina isn't going to dress herself like a boy, why would she do it to her beautiful daughter. Is this the story of Snow White, and Angelina want to be the "Fairest of them all". Shiloh would be prettier than Angelina, if she weren't dressing her like a boy. She's a beautiful little girl and her father seems to love her very much, maybe even more than Angelina.
I really don't surprised about the some overrated and more provoked reactions on this. I feel its pretty normal stuff unless the dozen media don't exposed it to be as much as highlighted then ipad, in dozenmedia.com every things seems to be calm and cool, although its unfair to compare MS,but certainty the underdog competitors like Softmaker had already reveled the new office applications ,so whats new. MS intend to do something to remain in the media coverage ,its now very often.
At this age, a good parent would pay attention to what a child likes, but guide the child also! A 4 year old girl can be taken to the GIRL'S section of a store, and asked to help choose her clothing. Children need parental input and rules to feel secure. Like it or not, we live in a society, and we need to teach our children how to live within the boundaries of that society. You can be unique without being rebellious & immature. Angelina should actually try parenting, not "watching" what the kid is going to come up with next.
Seriously, society is afraid of different.
Any parent on here who makes a judgment here is guilty.
Their family is none of anyone's business and I find it hard to believe that anyone would enjoy having their child's preference for clothing whether girly or not, scrutinized. I can't wait until Shiloh is older and has to deal with all of the public's crap.
I just hope she can stay true to who she is and I am glad Brad and Angelina are letting her do it now before the media sinks their teeth in. No wonder they seek solitude in another country. Wear what you want Shiloh, be who you are. Brad and Angelina you have an awesome and gorgeous family!
Im sorry, but she isn't SOMETIMES wearing boys clothing. She insists on it always. She isn't a tomboy. She will have great trouble when she gets around her own peer group, as she should. She is a very confused little girl. The fact that she swims in boys trunks, is simply crude. Its not legal for biological females to bare their breasts, and its telling that Shiloh is breaking the law with the blessing of her parents. They are raising her to disregard peoples comfort, normal modesty, and legal rules in favor of her own whim at four years old. How can that be OK? Its nuts. Not to mention that she isn't wearing boys clothing for comfort, or the fashion statement, or even rebellion. She is obviously doing it so she is recognized as a boy. She insists on being called Chaz, always. She would not wear a pair of more comfortable, better fitting pair of jeans and a sweater from the girls side. She isn't particularly sporty. She simply dislikes being female. So we know for a fact she is very aware of her gender status, and she hates it. The real question is why.
What planet do you live on where you think it's illegal for a *four* year old to be bare-chested while swimming?? At 4 years old, a regular girl would be welcome to swim in her knickers in public--I'm sorry, but there is nothing sexual or offensive about a toddler swimming in boys' trunks, whatever the toddler's gender.
And as for Shiloh's dress sense and decision to be referred to as "Chaz", I don't feel anybody can judge without knowing the full story. If Angelina is pressuring her daughter to dress in stereotypically boys' clothing, then personally I agree with the phycologists that it isn't appropriate. I also believe that forcing a child to dress in frills and pink simply because she is female is wrong if she'd rather wear shorts and a tee-shirt.
If, however, Shiloh is choosing her clothing and asking to be known as Chaz, then I for one laud her parents her respecting her. She's not hurting anybody; if it's a phase, then she'll grow out of it, and if this is who she is, then good on them for accepting their child.
And if it is her choice? Well then it's really nobody else's business.
I think it's really cute what jolie and pitt is doing. People are overreacting to the cloths and Shiloh is wearing. Looking at the trends today, it's almost normal for kids to where whatever they want. My Port Washington dentist has a daughter that would dress tom boyish. She is about 17 years of age now and she still dresses the same way. She is just like any average teenage girl, but her interest was different than most girls. She does well in school and has many friends, so really there is no point of dressing your child in a certain way, just whatever fits best.
Its nuts. Not to mention that she isn't wearing boys clothing for comfort, or the fashion statement, or even rebellion. She is obviously doing it so she is recognized as a boy. She insists on being called Chaz, always. She would not wear a pair of more comfortable, better fitting pair of jeans and a sweater from the girls side. She isn't particularly sporty. She simply dislikes being female. So we know for a fact she is very aware of her gender status, and she hates it. The real question is why.
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My 10 year old daughter gets most of her clothing from the boys department. She has always been allowed to express herself and this is her current style. Has she always dressed this way? No. She participated in dance class at age 4 and loved being in her tutu and almost everything she owned was pink. Does she struggle with gender identity issues? No. We have talked and she identifies as a girl. By the way, I am a lesbian and my daughter has 2 moms. Some may argue that WE are causing the "confusion". My two cents: our daughter is allowed to express herself in the way she chooses -- of course with parental guidance (and by the way, we have said "no" on occasion to some of her choices). She is an honors student, has lots of friends (boys and girls), she has a strong sense of self and is extremely creative and well-spoken. I don't know if her current style choices are indicative of anything, and honestly, it doesn't matter. I love my daughter the same now as I did when she was in her pink tutu. If she goes back to dressing girly, that is fine... If she stays in boys clothing, that is fine... If she ends up somewhere in the middle... That is fine. Bottom line, kids should be allowed to express themselves (again, with some parental guidance) and they will turn out exactly as they should... Whether gay, straight, transgendered. Just LOVE your kids. Period.
I believe that children should not be generalised. As a child, I too, dressed up like a 'tomboy' and preferred playing with toy swords and guns instead of Barbies and makeup. However, as I grew older, I grew out of that phase. As soon as I hit puberty, I started to prefer hanging out with my female friends and started to be more feminine. So whether or not this is a phase for young Shiloh, I think that this child should be supported for whatever decision she makes.
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