Reality star dad-of-eight Jon Gosselin wants to set the record straight. After months of drama and speculation surrounding his split from his wife of 10 years Kate, Jon says he’s tired of taking the brunt of the blame. As filming resumes on the family’s TLC hit, Jon & Kate Plus 8, Jon talks to In Touch about his break-up with Kate, how his kids are coping – and of course his new love Hailey Glassman.
On Kate initiating their split: “Let’s go back to October of last year — that’s when all of this happened. Kate basically came to me out of the blue and said, ‘I am done. You are going to live your life, and I am going to live my life.’ I was like, ‘What?’ I didn’t really know what was going on. When she said that, I was really upset and nervous.”
On wanting his marriage to work: “Yes, I asked, ‘What do I have to do to mend the relationship? What did I do wrong?’ I was beating myself up about it. So I read a lot of books about personalities, like The Five Love Languages. Throughout the marriage, I felt like my personality had changed a lot. In December, I went to therapy. I asked Kate to come, but she didn’t want to. She said, ‘If you have a problem, go fix it.’”
On when they started living apart: “We went to Utah on January 1. On January 12, she flew back with security and I stayed. That’s when I started to just hang out and meet people, and feel free. Not too many girls, just with my guy friends. I couldn’t do that for nine years. When I came back on the 17th, Kate and I weren’t talking. So I just said, ‘I’m moving out of the house,’ and that was it.”
On finding love, post-breakup, with 22-year-old Hailey Glassman: “Hailey — it started around May. She is the polar opposite of Kate. It’s really different. I feel good about myself and people see my good qualities. I’m not being put down. If I want to go out with my friends, Hailey says, ‘Oh, go out.’ I’m not used to that. I was used to, ‘No, no, it’s your fault.’ Sometimes I ask Hailey permission, like I used to do with Kate, and she says, ‘You don’t have to ask permission.’ I was used to living like that, and now it’s like a breath of fresh air. You can have a balanced relationship but also spend time with your friends.”